Tinder is pretty fascinating, as both a dating app and as a social experiment.
I remember once reading a blog post on how to optimize your tinder profile (it wasn’t this one, but it was similar).
It went into real detail on things like:
– Which pictures to choose
– How to write your bio
– What kind of openers to use
Maybe it was accurate, maybe it wasn’t.
But what it didn’t do, was give you first hand knowledge of how both sides play the game. So I’ll go one better on that guide.
Imagine you’re a business man, and you wanter enter a new market where you’ll be aiming to beat the competition. What would you do first? You’d probably want to try out some of the competition. That would mean buying their product or service and putting it through its paces.
You need to find out which competitor does it well, and which does it badly.
Well, you can apply the same principles to Tinder.
Create a female account on Facebook, and use it to browse Tinder as a Female.
Does that sound weird?
If you haven’t done it already, there’s probably one or two things that have held you back.
– You didn’t think of it
– You thought of it, but thought it would be weird
– You thought of it, realised you’d need a female facebook account, and stopped at that hurdle
If the last point held you up, push through it.
How to Create a Female Tinder Account
What you’ll need (besides your phone and the Tinder app):
- An email address or mobile number that hasn’t been registered with Facebook (if you haven’t got one, just buy a cheap SIM and activate it so you can receive incoming SMS messages)
- A couple pics of an attractive girl
First create your new female Facebook account, adding a couple display pictures.
Then use that Facebook account to login to Tinder.
What I’ve Learnt from the Experiment
So I’d heard about experiments like this before. For example, 4 Months and 10 Fake Profiles where they show the disparity between online dating as man vs a woman.
It makes perfect sense that women would get far more attention. That’s the way the game plays out.
But its one thing to read these things, and another to experience them for yourself.
Here’s what I took from the experiment:
- Its a huge power trip to be on the other side of the game. No, I’m not saying that girls are on a power trip – if its all you know, then its just normal. But coming from the male perspective, where you’re often “chasing” the female, to being in the position where guys bring their game to you… its totally different.
- The amount of attention you get as an attractive female is incredible. Guys appear to just like every girl that comes up. This means you’re getting matches and conversation starters constantly. So your boredom threshold can afford to be super low.
- When you’re getting all this attention, chances are, you probably don’t want to talk to someone who sounds insecure or needy. Those qualities are incredibly transparent from the other side of the table.
- The amount of guys that look to meet early on is low. At least from the sample size I’ve seen. This either means a) its a bad tactic, they’ve been burnt using it, and they adapted… or b) they think its bad to move quickly. But from what I can see, too much conversation gets dull, especially when you’ve got all this attention. So I think its worth trying to move quick on that front. Similarly, get the convo off Tinder asap.
But you know what, that’s just what I learnt. You might learn something totally different, depending upon your perspective.
If you think about it, never in human history has there been an easy way for a hetero man to understand the other side of the dating game (that I’m aware of?).
The best you could do was read about it, or talk about it.
Now you can experience part of it first hand.